Success- How do you define it???

SUCCESS is something everyone wants in their life...some say they are very successful and some say they are never successful...
i have often wondered what success actually is..how do you become successful?how to choose the path that leads you to success?how to make the right decisions at the right time , which enables you to become successful?
There were always doubts and questions in my mind about all these things.A lot of people told that for you to become successful in life, you have to be excellent in academics, go to the best schools and colleges and choose a very bright career like, medicine, or software engineering, MBA or civil services...
I didnt know what to do at that time, so chose one among these options and tired becoming a software engineer.I didnt know that was not what I really wanted to become in life until i came out of college and worked for a few years...Now what to do???I cannot go back and start over again, right??So where did I go wrong first???or what went wrong in my life??
I also wanted to be successful in life...I also had my dreams...then what happened???
At this point of time in my life, I met with some people who really changed my life in a big way...Interacting with them, helped me realise what actually was the mistake i committed and how it can be corrected..
the mistake was simple..i didnt have a powerful DREAM...i only had wishes...I didnt know how to convert my wishes to dreams and dreams to goals...that is where i got lost....
Now the question was, how can i correct it? for that also the answer was simple....make your dream very powerful....the way wil automatically appear infront of you...
Now it was said very easily....but how to make my dream powerful??was it not that powerful???
In pursuit of answers to these questions, i set my sail....
On the way, i started realising that, the most important thing for this to happen is belief in yourself..its not academics that gives you all these or teaches you all these...i am not saying you dont need academics in life...What I am saying is academics is not the key in your life...Majority of the most successful people who lives and once lived in this world were not great scholars...If you take a look at the Forbes magazine and check out the top 500 richest people in this world, around 72% of them have not even completed Graduation..30% have not completed schooling also..Then what made all these people successful in their lives?
Its their dreams that has helped them become successful..
As said by our great former President Dr.A.P.J.Abdul Kalam sir, "Dreams are not that you see in your sleep...Dreams are that which does not let you sleep..."
Cultivating such a dream wil definitely make you successful...
Now the hard part...how to do it??
Before that comes some other things...You need to find out your WHAT and WHY first...Your reasons for those dreams could be anything...it might be silly to every other soul in this world...it doesnt matter...it needs to be justified only to your conscience...
Now you have to make your dream come before your eyes every moment...for that you have to let your dream enter your subconscious mind...this is not an easy part..but the rewards are worth all the pain...some of the necessary changes you need to make in your habits for this to happen are-
1.always think positive.
2.assosiate yourself with positive minded people more.
3.believe in your abilities because no one was born to be not successful.


i have started practising all these in my life and now I am experienceing the changes in my life...I hope everyone gets the ability to do that in their lives...

Trust....what is its significance.....

TRUST!!!!.....
what is it actually???is it something ordinary??is it worth looking upon?is it worth working hard on?
I believe trust is the most important factor which determines anything in this world..Every living form has this with something or someone at least..Plants trust the soil covering their roots and giving them food and water and helps in holding them upright...animals and humans trust their partners or loved ones to be with them every time they need..like that there are lots of different kinds of trust forms in this world..known and unknown..but what i am concerned about is the trust we build among our friends, loved ones and society...
Trust is not formed in one moment or one day...sometimes it takes days, sometimes weeks and sometimes even a lifetime...but if you really think, trust is the only factor needed for any relationship to blossom in this world..they say, never trust a stranger...i dont know about that...but i am a person who trusts people very fast...its actually my biggest weakness..but i dont let the trust be broken very easily...i try hard to keep the trust level as high as possible always...but i am also the kind of person for whom once trust with a person is broken, its next to impossible to rebuild it..i dont know if this is common with everyone..
Never let anyone's trust in you be broken..you will never gain anything by it...only lose a lot...
If you have gained the trust of at least one person, then i believe you have achieved a lot in this world..if you have broken the trust of one person, then you have lost a lifetime worth of priceless things...
The feeling you get when someone looks you in the eye and says, "I trust you with my life", cannot be matched with anything else..It shows the belief that person has in your love for their life..to gain that you might have to work really hard and be very patient at times..but to break something like that you wont even need a second...so whenever you are about to break someone's trust, please keep in mind the strain and pain and hard work needed to build a trust like that...
It is very difficult to recover from the pain caused by someone dear and near breaking you trust....I have experienced and still not recovered from several such incidents in my life...
Hope no one has to go through such a phase in their life....

Love.....what is it actually?

I often wonder what is the difference of Love and Friendship in life....never got any good answer for that...some say " love is what you cant have with everyone or anyone, but one special person and friendship is something you can have with a lot of them..." 
I believe, friendship is the key to any relationship...be it love, or any other kind, unless you can be friendly with a person, there is no way you can get to know the person...unless you get to know them, you  cant find out whether they are more than friends or not...
I also believe, we can love more than one person...Its just that society has taught us to stop looking for more people to love when you find one person..I  dont believe in these kind of stupid social rules anymore..
Its not always necessary that you have to end up sharing your life with your loved one..sometimes even without being partners, we can be in love...love so deep that, current society doesn't acknowledge that...
Love has to be limitless, true from heart and fearless....
When you love someone truly, deeply with all your heart, you cant stop thinking about that person and nothing else makes you more happier than your love's happiness...
Sometimes, you dont need to be together 24hours a day to really feel and enjoy the love...just a few moments is more than enough...but those moments should be exclusive, private , showing the care, love and passion for each other...
Expressing the love in words and emotions is the most important thing in making the relationship worthwhile and prospering...it may seem silly, but even if you have been in a relationship for a long time, you do have to tell I LOVE YOU BABY to your loved ones regularly, if you love them...the intensity in love doesn't fade away on its own...it fades if you let it happen...and if it happens, nothing in this world is more painful that that...
Hope no one ever has to bear that pain in their life......

Dil ki halat kisi se kahi nahi jati

Dil ki halat aab humse sahi nahi jati

Tadapti toh hogi woh bhi meri tarha

Warna yoon kisi ki yaad har pal nhi aati

sometimes all you need in life is a little love and care and you can achieve impossible things easily...

sometimes all you need to destroy someone, is to take away the love of his loved ones....